Things best left unsaid

As promised, here's a post that I've been giving a lot of thought to for the past month or so...

As my college career comes to a close, I've been thinking about all the things I've done right and wrong. I've also been considering situations where I may have been able to help myself and/or others more than I did. Sometimes, though, it's not possible to help someone without hurting yourself or someone else, and so you decide silence is the best option. This inevitably leads me to think about things I wish I could say to people, but which would only make situations awkward, or worsen an already-bad one if I spoke up. In some cases, I just don't think they'd listen to me, or that they shouldn't have to. Here are some of the things that I wish I could say, but can't for those reasons:

-You have to try to be more accommodating. You can't have your way all the time.

-Loosen up a bit and enjoy life more. Think how much of your short time on the planet you've wasted being annoyed or stressed.

-Getting pissed about problems does not solve them. Don't go any further down that road. I've dealt with anger issues before in my life, and it's all about self-control.

-I'm afraid that we're not going to be friends anymore once I move.

-You confuse me a lot. I'd tell you to knock it off, but I honestly don't think you can help it.

-You're wrong about me, but I'm not going to waste any more breath telling you so. Just watch and see.

-You're beautiful, intelligent, and fun. You'd probably say you don't believe me, but it's the truth.

-For months, I thought I'd never talk to you again. Now that I have, I don't really see why I didn't before now. Thanks for being my friend again.

-You're in a very precarious position right now. It's almost like a tightrope. Keep your balance, or be miserable; those seem to be your options... that's kind of rough. I wish I knew how to help, but all I can offer is an ear.

-Stop talking about how little you care about the opinions of others, and start trying to live it. You're insecure, and you're taking it out on others without realizing it.

-I miss you a little less every day, but I still miss you.


Each of those is for a different person in my life. Guessing is pointless; you're probably wrong, and I wouldn't tell you even if you were right. Please keep in mind that I'm not writing this to condescend to anyone. Some of these are brutally honest, and they point out flaws in others, but those flaws are ones that I honestly see. Ones I wish I could help them fix, but I don't want to insult them by trying. A couple of them are ones I share! Yes, I am a hypocrite for writing this. But it's been on my mind a lot, so I thought I'd share it.